For the last several months story after story has hit the news headlines revealing the real-life, secrets of certain notable individuals. Most recently, Sally Fields came forth with her memoirs revealing the hidden past of a turbulent life. Then there is the decades old accusation of the appointed Supreme Court Justice, Kavanaugh that is presenting a battle in American politics.
Practically every day there is someone else who is coming forth to tell all.
The Me-Too movement has also captivated the news. It seems like the world is suddenly becoming transparent with their past lives……revealing the secrets that have up to this point been hidden. It would not take a very smart person to realize that a lot of this Tell All, Me Too strategy is politically motivated for harm, not good. That makes me sad.
In reflection of the above, what does, Tell All say to you? The Body of Christ? The Church of Jesus Christ? Do Christ followers have secrets? I’m guilty! I carried secrets for years that were compartmentalized or tucked away deep in my heart. It was fourteen years ago that I laid all my secrets on the table, openly. It was not an overnight process, but took months of reflecting, counseling, grace and being in a safe environment of love, grace, trust and encouragement. It seems like from the bottom of my feet to the top of my head every secret and life issue was sucked out and dealt with.
We all naturally feel that if our friends or work associates knew the hidden stuff about us then we would not be accepted. That’s not true. For me and Betty, the results were healing and freedom, the likes of which we had never experienced. It brought a freshness to life, brand new excitement and value. There has been no other time in my life where we are more excited about each other, our relationship with the Lord, our marriage, our family, our friends than we are today because of our openness.
I don’t advocate you tell the entire world about all your mishaps, evil treatment, failures and sinful tendencies, but, there should be at least someone in your life where you can trust to bear your heart with everything. “We cannot let another love us unless we trust them. Love acts as a safety net when we admit the truth about ourselves. One of the greatest gifts we can offer another person is a safe place to fail.” (Trueface). I was age 57 before I had someone to do that. It was as if I had experienced a brand-new life after doing so. It is the issues in your heart that needs to be shared, prayed over and forgiven. When sin and evil tendencies are brought into the light it loses its power.
The scriptures tell us in James 5:16 (CEV) If you have sinned, you should tell each other what you have done. Then you can pray for one another and be healed. The prayer of an innocent person is powerful, and it can help a lot. Also, Galatians 6:2 tells us that we are to Stoop down and reach out to those who are oppressed. Share their burdens, and so complete Christ’s law.
Most of our issues of life come from the sins and mistreatment from others or the sins or mistreatment you have done to someone else. These issues bring guilt, conviction and often shame. Shame continually tells you the lie, that there is something wrong with you and you are not worthy. The Christ follower should be open and real in his life (transparent) but also vulnerable which means that you will trust someone else to speak into your life to help you. Very often a friend can see things about your life that you cannot see. Betty and I practice vulnerability in our marriage with remarkable success.
Telling all to God as well as a trusted friend can transform your life and can bring emotional scars to emotional healing. It did for us.
Think on these things.